Starting a relationship actually turns out to be the easiest part; maintaining it at a healthy and favorable level is what poses dangers. That is why the number of couples (married or not) who attend therapy for couples is increasing - a preventive measure against the difficult times that sooner or later occur ... and the prolongation of beautiful moments. To give you a shoulder in your love affair, Cosmo consulted the best American experts and selected their most valuable love advice that they have collected over the years - from valuable life philosophies to small gestures. If you use them, you will be able to keep your relationship happy and healthy for a long time. 1. Sometimes betray your habits Couples develop a specific dynamic with each other: the ways in which they connect with each other are constantly repeated. If you change the drawn scheme and act in reverse order, in a positive way you will bring new life to your relationship. For example, if you always get angry with your boyfriend when he hangs out to do some annoying homework, try to approach him next time in a kinder and friendlier tone, and then thank him for a job well done. It works every time. 2. Touch constantly We have no doubt that you hug and kiss every time you see each other and maybe you like to squeeze into each other almost after sex. But simple gestures like rubbing his shoulder while watching TV, grabbing his arm while walking down the street, or stroking his thighs at dinner are perfect ways to get closer. Frequent touching of your partner during the day increases the hormones that make you feel good, which strengthens your attachment and makes you closer on an instinctive level. 3. Don't make friends Being friends with your boyfriend looks great in theory. But such relationships can ruin your sex life. If the purely animal attraction you had in the beginning begins to give way to your relationship, which is threateningly becoming one between roommates, nothing good awaits you. Save the long discussions about the moments when you are with your girlfriends, and keep your sexual energy entirely for him. 4. Get a stable sexual diet If you want to maintain your intimacy with your boyfriend, be predatory enough in the bedroom. Men feel much more comfortable connecting with women on a physical level without delving into discussions. To make your relationship more sustainable, act with your lust in the same way you do with your diet or diet - make it a part of your daily routine. Set a goal to have sex at least twice a week and do it strictly. 5. Alternate as you speak To make sure you both have a chance to express your position during an argument - and present your points of view one after the other - take turns. While one listens, the other speaks the opposite. 6. Find an intersection When making decisions together, try to make more compromises. It is good for each of you to write exactly what you want. Let's say you are considering your summer vacation ... You want to go to a place full of luxury restaurants and shops, and he is hoping for some exotic trip where he will have the opportunity to be lazy by the pool. If your wishes are clearly and unequivocally written in black and white, you may be able to choose a place that meets the needs of both. Cool city, a little sun ... 7. Be less negative There are much more effective ways to dispel your complaints from angry remarks in a high voice. Dress your negative comment in two positives by the sandwich method. If you want to remark to him about the constant delays, try something like, "You know ... I love your carelessness and your free spirit, but you really piss me off when you're not on time. I'm sure you'll remain the man I adore even when you're punctual. "8. Listen to yourself what are you talking about. That is why it is important for both of you to repeat your remarks to each other: this way you will know that you have remained understood and there will be no dissatisfaction. 9. Be tolerant You are both not perfect and the oddities you have are there. Instead of allowing your super annoying habits to wear out a lot of nerves on both sides, you better try to find the positive side of things, even if it's invisible at first glance. Instead of going crazy when he starts screaming in front of the TV during a game, for example, try to remember how much you love his passion when he shows up elsewhere. If, on the other hand, his shyness in front of new people irritates you, just think how refreshing it is to be with a shy and easy-going person in front of a braggart who needs to talk to absolutely everyone in the room.
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